From elusive to exclusive
It's a common perception that guys fear commitment, and by doing so, drive girls mad. Most guys see commitment as "I'm giving up my freedom", and are bent on maintaining their freedom.
So how do we handle them without them flying of the handle in a fear frenzy? Fear not, because you don't have to lose your sanity or your guy if you understand why they do it.
Never forget that guys have very fragile egos, and they like to feel they are in control of every situation. What scares them is the idea of feeling trapped or like they are not in control of their relationship.
Jonathan, who is 22, explains what made him run from a girl he met online: "I was really enjoying chatting to this girl online, and we decided to meet up. She was cool in person too and I was keen to see her again. But after a few more chats online she started asking me if we were boyfriend and girlfriend and pushing me to say we're 'together'.
I don't reply to her emails any longer," he admits.
This girl tried to control how Jonathan felt, and he simply removed himself from the situation, in order to stay in control.
Girls need to remember that guys are in essence still the hunters. So they like when a confident girl approaches him first, but one that tries to take his 'power' from him, will only see him running in the opposite direction.
Pushing for commitment is likely to simply push a guy away from you. If he isn't offering his commitment to you after the two of you have been growing closer, maybe you should consider the possibility that you want different things from your connection with each other.
It doesn't mean that he doesn't like you, it simply means that you are at different stages in your life, and not meant to strain things any longer.
And let's be honest, there really is plenty more fish in the sea, so why waste your time and energy on one that is unable to give you what you need?