Lost in translation
Guys aren't exactly known for their ability to mean what they say and say what they mean.
Girls have to learn to read between the lines in order to decode his words and make sense of what's coming out of his mouth.
When you chat online with a guy and he says he'll phone you, don't hold your breath. Sure, the intention to phone you might be there, but it's easy for him to chicken out.
He's been so used to communicate with you via online chat that the though of actually speaking to you on the phone might freak him out.
Now you could stare at the phone and wait for him to get his act together, or lead the way and dial his number. A show of confidence might be all he needs to get his act together.
So what if you phone and he sounds weird? Don't lose faith.
Speaking on the phone comes so naturally to girls, it's like we were been born clutching our mobiles. For guys it might be a completely different story.
He might be taken totally by surprise because you had the courage to do what he's been dreading to do, and might feel completely out of his depth. Or there might be people around him, making him feel uncomfortable, or he's just woken up, or he's bonding with his Xbox.
Take control and keep the conversation light. You've broken the telecommunications ice, chat for a few minutes and hang up.
Most guys need a lot of training when it comes to communicating. Like with so many other things in life, it is up to the females to lead the way and show them how it's done.
? Adfero Ltd